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Wedding Wednesday Discussion – Should Wedding Venus hold more than one wedding at a time?
I wasn’t going to run a discussion this week but after this weekend’s drunken twittering with some fellow wedding peeps I felt the need to share with you my thoughts on Wedding Venues holding more than one wedding at a time.
Now I know that all venues need to make their money…….But I have to say that I am pretty much against this………….so I guess this isn’t going to be a debate more of a rant!!
My attention was drawn to a situation this Saturday evening when I was sat with a glass of wine in one hand and my phone in the other. I noticed that one of my photographer friends had tweeted that they had been at a wedding where there had been 3…not 2 but 3 weddings on all in the same venue. Now I know a lot of venues hold 2 weddings at a time and they never try and hide the fact…But 3!!! Now come on, is that necessary! The photographer said that it has been very hard for them to get the group shots as there were other weddings around them all day. Each of the 3 brides could very easily see the other one and had to take it in turns to use the venues grounds……………Bad form me thinks!!
So why do venues do it…..greed?? Well I guess that is the simple answer. A lot of venues are big enough and experienced to run more than wedding at a time, which I guess is fine if you can run them as two separate events….but in my experience more often than not there is always some small amount of cross over. A shared bar, shared grounds……and what about god forbid (my biggest nightmare) a shared toilet where 2 brides stand looking at each other in the same dress!!!
People have said to me that the bride is well aware of the fact that there may be another wedding when she books, which is fair point! But what if when that couple book there isn’t anyone else booked in that day, just them. The pay their £2 – £5K venue fee and then a month before the wedding they find out there is another wedding booked in…………well personally I’d be more than a bit annoyed! Yes couples are to expect it……..but why??? Do the couple now have to book their wedding on a Wednesday or a Thursday to guarantee exclusivity……..or do they just have to pay an incredibly high price to make sure that they are the only ones present??
These days it is one of the first questions I ask a venue when I go to meet them ‘Do you have exclusivity for each of your brides?’ and my hats go off to the ones that do!
When a couple gets married they want to know they are the most special people there, they want and deserve first class service and the venues undivided attention. After all they are paying a high enough price as it is.
And yes as a planner it is my job to stop the worst thing happening…..the 2 brides bumping into each other………but if you only had that one wedding on at time there would be no need!
…………………………As for the venue with 3 brides, I would never recommend them to any of my brides and grooms………..EVER!!!
So what do you think? Am I ranting over nothing? Or do you agree with me? Are you a supplier who has worked on a wedding when this has happed? Have you any nightmare stories to tell or even some good ones where it has worked perfectly well?
Are you a bride who has experienced the worst case scenario? Or have you had a good experience??
I would love to hear your points of view………………please feel free to join in the discussion!