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The proof is in the planning. When it comes to planning the perfect wedding, is there actually such a thing? We have to remember that whether we want a rustic wedding or a no-holds-barred Disney castle-type affair, it can be a very overwhelming thing to consider. We all know that wedding planning can have its stressful moments, but we have to also remember that it’s got to be fun. But because of the fact that it is an event, this can leave us feeling overwhelmed. What can we do to take the stress and feel calm during the act of planning your wedding?
It’s always important to remember that when you are going through this, there are plenty of people who have gone through it as well. When you share a problem, there will be plenty of people that are willing to offer advice, but also give you the opportunity to feel more relaxed about the process. You can talk to a friend or a family member but if you feel that you need an impartial opinion, there are online communities of engaged couples out there. You can find numerous forums that talk about every little part of wedding planning, from comparing the engagement rings to discussing those feelings of anxiety. You have to remember that if you keep anxiety close to your chest and bottled up, this can make things worse.
If you feel stressed about the planning process, may very well be due to the fact that you are thoroughly disorganised. The great thing is that there are plenty of tools online to keep you on track. You can use online tools like budget calculators, and checklists, so everything can be in one suitable place. Keeping on track and making sure that all of those little wedding details are in one place is vital. It’s always worth having a notepad next to the bed. There will be times when you wake up in the middle of the night with so many things whizzing through your head, that you can just get them down on paper and deal with them the next day.
Going through the wedding process is stressful, and this is why you need to learn how to delegate. It’s not just about giving tasks to family or friends, but it’s about making sure that when you choose your wedding vendors, that you pick pros that you trust. Many wedding specialists will understand inherently how to manage your thoughts and feelings about the big day. And when you find people that actually are interested in creating your dream day, rather than just taking the cash, you can come down and let those professionals do their jobs. One of the big causes of stress in the run-up to the big day is feeling that we have to micromanage everyone. So when we start to do this, this means that we are panicking about the little things. So, by delegating to family and friends, but also working with professionals that give you that confident feeling is invaluable.
Wedding prep can be this all-consuming aspect that eats away at every part of our lives. It’s important to take a step away, either by going away for a weekend, organising times when you should prep, but also organise times when you should relax. There are many things you can do to set away from the preparation, such as learning a new skill. This forces your attention on a new project rather than focusing all of your energies on the wedding. When you start to limit your planning activities, make sure that when you are not doing any wedding planning that you make a concerted effort to not think or talk about the wedding. But when wedding thoughts consume your mind completely, you have to learn to unwind. Learning stress reduction tactics such as meditation or deep breathing can help infinitely. Learning to control your anxieties will help, and it’s always important to get perspective. Because this is your big day, and no-one else’s. But feeling like it’s your day and it has to be perfect proves overwhelming. This is why you need to learn how to be calm.
There will be times when we feel it’s too much. And you might think that if you are over halfway through the wedding planning, it’s too late to get extra help to coordinate. But wedding planners will take on all the tasks that are stressful. In addition to this, a wedding planner will be there on the big day to make sure that every little thing runs smoothly. It’s important to remember that if you are working hard at making everything perfect, will you actually enjoy the big day? It’s going to be a whirlwind. And you want to remember every small moment being joyful, rather than thinking about the little pockets of stress.
We get it, it’s not easy trying to get every little thing perfect. But when it becomes too much, you need to take a moment to remember the reason you’re doing this in the first place. You found the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, and ultimately your wedding day is a celebration of this. You need to focus on the bigger picture because while you may worry about who is going to sit where, in case they cause ructions, it’s about you and your significant other. And you have to remember this. When you focus on the bigger picture, it gives you that perspective to navigate any speed bumps, and nothing will go perfectly. But if you are more relaxed and take any potential issues with a smile, you won’t feel so anxious about it all. It’s all about that 20-minute period when you are in the ceremony and you say those two glorious words. Nothing else matters.
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