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27
Jan
2012
Back in November I wrote a discussion post about what to do with your wedding dress once you are married. I had spent a lot of time deliberating about what to do with my own wedding dress as it had been hanging up in the spare room unwashed for at least 2 years gathering dust after my wedding. The post proved to be very popular and you were all very helpful with your suggestions.
The main ideas that seem to come up were 1) get it altered and died and wear it again, 2) sell it 3) get it framed and mounted on the wall.
Well there is no way I will ever be able to get in the dress again, considering I have put on at least a stone since the wedding………….so I went off and got it washed to at least consider selling it!
When it came back from the cleaners I can not describe how unattached I felt to it, all the sentimentality had gone, it seems that the dirty marks that were on the dress all told a story, a story of the wedding day, the wedding night dancing by the swimming pool, wringing the train under the tap that night to get the black marks out of it, the marks gained from the trash the dress shoot, (Full shoot HERE) mud stains from the farm all gone………..and now it was just a dress, and a dress that didn’t fit at that! so I thought I may as well sell it.
Then one day I found myself reading Love my dress and a post about oxfam and a project that Annabel had put together and I got to thinking about Oxfam and all the amazing work they do. Lots of Charity shops take wedding dresses but Oxfam have a whole host fo specialist shops across the country that specialise just in wedding dresses…………and here my thoughts went to donating my dress to Oxfam instead of actually selling it.
A few years ago Oxfam played a big part in my life, I used to volunteer in a shop every saturday when I lived in Nottingham, as well as that I was part of the Oxfam campagne group and went on marches for them, arranged charity stalls at local fairs and then put on large-scale charity events for Oxfam and it was here that my interest in event management started!…….so it seemed the obvious choice to donate my dress to such a worthy cause.
My charity work has taken a massive back seat since I moved to Sheffield and especially since I started working for my self, so I feel that donating my dress and letting the proceeds from it go to such a worthy cause has kind of made up for my charity slackness!
So a couple of weeks ago, I took my dress out of it’s cover swished it about a bit and said good-bye to it. The next day Nik took it up to the York Store under my strict instructions and left it there, ready for another lucky bride to hopefully fall in love with it as much as I did.
So the moral of this story is…………
1) If you are thinking of keeping your wedding dress for posterity DON’T WASH IT! the memories are in the dirt!
2) If you can bear to part with it why not donate it to a worthy cause? just think not only will another bride get the joy you did out of wearing your dress, but Oxfam will benefit hugely from the money that will be made from it!
Since donating my dress I have been in contact with Oxfam to get a bit more information about their wedding department, they not only offer wedding dresses but a gift list service and wedding favours.
So I hope I have inspired at least one of you to take your dress that has been hanging up for years and do something good with it. Is there really any point in it sitting in a box in your attack? are you really ever going to get it out and look at it again? do you really think your going to make a christening gown out of it?? if the answer is no than PLEASE consider doing something good with it………..donate it to Oxfam and feel that warm glow that I did knowing that you have done a good thing and that someone else will not only benefit from wearing your dress but also someone will benefit from the proceeds that dress has made……everyones a winner!
Fore more information go to: www.oxfam.org/weddings
Photo credits : www.anniepeelphotography.com and www.s6photography
Oh Kelly this is such a lovely post. I think it is wonderful that you donated it to charity.
I am thinking of going to the York store at some point next year to have a look for a dress to wear to the registry office. Just something short and sweet – but why buy a new one when I can get something in excellent condition and contribute to a good cause at the same time?! And when i’ve worn it, I shall probably give it back to Oxfam, to be re-sold and re-loved!
Lovely post! Not sure I could part with my dress yet (muddy hem and all!) but we did use Oxfam Unwrapped as our guest list. They were fantastic, and a pleasure to deal with. We even got a personally handwritten note thanking us for what we raised. And what was even better – we didn’t have to find homes for all those presents we could have been bought….
Such a lovely post.
I got my wedding dress from a charity bridal shop, and it was such a lovely feeling to know that, as well as getting a ‘bargain’, every penny would be helping others.
I haven’t managed to detach myself from my beautiful dress yet (it has been 7 months since our wedding), but when the time comes I will either donate it again or use it in some way to raise even more money for charity.
Excellent post Kelly. :-) It’s great to see you thinking of others in this way. I’ve photographed a few weddings with ‘pre-loved’ dresses and you just can’t tell from looking which are which. This is an excellent way to be budget minded for a wedding and you can of course pass it back to Oxfam again afterwards. ;-)
I’ll be following suit and donating mine to Oxfam after my September wedding. Whilst it’s a designer dress, I bought it second hand myself and I kind of like the idea that it’ll get passed around making lots of brides feel like a princess!
Good on you!
lovely post!
Very cool thing to do xx
Wow! Letting go of a wedding dress is not easy. But I admire you for what you did…an unselfish act. I’m sure a bride out there is happy because of this.
So wonderful to read such great comments about Oxfam’s work and in particular the Bridal Rooms. Since taking over as manager at the Leatherhead store, I have enjoyed helping many brides-to-be find their perfect gowns and accessories. We are so very grateful for the donations from stores, designers and brides which have continued to help us keep fighting against poverty around the globe. THANK YOU.
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