If you are in the midst of planning your wedding, you will know that there...
For those of you who are regular readers of the blog you will know all about the Older Wiser Married feature. It’s been a few months since I shared with you what could be my favourite feature on the Blog, but today I am pleased to say the feature is back after a bit of a rest.
The idea is for couples who are married to share with you their wedding story and experiences and also the things they would do differently if they could go back and do it again. This can be a recent wedding or one from years ago. We also focus on the positives and the things they think really worked, what they have learnt and how their marriage has changed their relationships.
Last time we heard from of Hannah from Bhavna from Bhavna Barratt Photography and her amazing wedding day. Today it is the turn of Sarah from Oakwood Events who got married 12 years ago. It’s safe to say a few things have changed sine then in the wedding world!
We wanted a quiet, informal wedding with 30 close friends and family, it didn’t quite happen that way in the end! We chose Speen Chapel as it was local to us and it was completely unpretentious; it didn’t even have an aisle. We didn’t really choose the reception venue, as we were short on time family sorted it and picked the closest place to our home. We didn’t want to spend much as we’d just bought our first house so we kept the whole wedding under £3,000 – my wedding dress was second-hand from eBay, our rings were my parents’ original wedding bands, I did my own makeup, we used my dad’s classic car with a neighbour as chauffeur and we handmade the boys’ cravats and waistcoats.
Did it on a tight budget & timescale.
Keeping to a low-budget and short timescale meant most decisions were easy as there wasn’t time to fret about things.
The ceremony was magic.
In the tiny chapel, the balcony was full and we were, literally, surrounded by family, friends and well wishers and it felt completely perfect. It was a shame the vicar started reading a funeral service instead of a wedding, but it had been 40 years since the last wedding there so I guess he was out of practice!
We weren’t worried about the details.
I don’t remember doing anything about centerpieces for the reception and I’m not sure whether we did favours. I think we must have had a DJ but I’m not certain as there are no pictures of the evening. 12 years on, it turns out none of that matters, although I am a bit embarrassed that I don’t remember!
Stay in control.
I ended up with my sisters as reluctant bridesmaids (I hadn’t wanted bridesmaids at all) and lots of my parents’ friends and extended family invited, who were lovely but we hardly knew them
Prioritise the budget.
Although we kept to the budget overall, if we hadn’t had the extra guests we could have had a proper honeymoon instead of a few nights away.
Use a photographer you trust.
Our photographer was professional but a friend of a friend and he had just discovered digital. The chap was so pleased that he could airbrush a hosepipe/auntie/car out of the pictures it completely eclipsed the fact that in most of the pictures someone has their eyes closed and the colour/exposure is completely off. There weren’t enough to make an album and we didn’t have any professionally printed. I don’t know what happened to the originals but I only have a handful of images now. We haven’t got a single photo of the speeches or evening reception.
If we could do it again, I’d spend more time finding a photographer (and spend more money on the right person if we needed to). I cringe to think of our wedding when I’m at friends’ and clients’ weddings now – their weddings are beautiful and stylish with stunning details! Even with the short timescale we should have had more personal touches and if we could do it again I’d choose a blank canvas venue as I’d love to have had fun with the décor and lighting.
I like to think we’d stick to the same budget, but have less people so we could spend more on creating a great atmosphere for our closest friends and family for the reception.
That your wedding day is the fastest day of your life! Everyone says it goes by quickly but it’s hard to express just how suddenly I found myself throwing my bouquet and saying goodbye to everyone at the end of the night. Enjoy every moment.
We also learnt that if there are things you want but the budget won’t stretch ask family to give them to you as wedding presents. My father in law paid for my bouquet and my aunt gave us our wedding cake as a gift – it turned out to be a lovely way of making everyone feel part of the event.
It didn’t change our relationship but our wedding day gave us memories and special moments that we’ll hold on to for the rest of our lives.
Steve was an IT consultant and I was a project manager in investment banking so a wedding business wasn’t on our original career paths. Steve’s passion has always been lighting and he ran a business doing wedding and party lighting in his evenings and weekends to fit around his day job. Business grew until I began to help with client enquiries and in 2011 we rebranded and incorporated as Oakwood Events. Steve and I left our jobs to work full time at Oakwood Events and we’ve never looked back.
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