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It surprises me that many people still don’t seem to know what wedding planners do! I set my wedding planning business up in 2009, at that point in time I’d used a wedding planner for my own wedding, so understood wholeheartedly the benefits of hiring a wedding planner, however as I have gone on and progressed in building up my business I still come across the same puzzled faces, the same questions and the same preconceptions of what a wedding a planner does.
This has come to my mind again recently after exhibiting at a few wedding exhibitions and coming up against the same hurdles, brides, grooms, mothers, even suppliers still don’t seem to know what we/I do, which quite frankly worries and puzzles me!
So I thought I would write a little piece on what I personally do….this isn’t a sales pitch it’s more of a closer look at the life of a wedding planner!
Well after reading many many wedding planning sights, the main spiel we all seem to give you is….we can save you time, money, your stress levels blar blar blar……and yes the average wedding take’s 250 hours to plan, and what with having a full time job and trying to keep together some sort of social life, that means most of a brides and grooms weekends and evenings taken up with wedding planning!…again blar blar blar!!
So some comment misconceptions first
• I am nothing like Jennifer Lopes in the wedding planner – I am not going to steal your husband and I do not wear a head set when I am working!
• Neither am I anything like the wedding planner in father of the Bride…I will not insist you have swans in your back garden and I will not make your wedding into something that you don’t want!
• I am not going to come into your wedding plans and completely take over, I’m here to assist you
• I do not work on commissions from other suppliers and venues I work independently and always have my client’s best interests at heart.
• I don’t just plan the whole wedding. I have a huge number of planning services on my website from just an hour of my time, to planning workshops, venue searches, on the day management, partial planning right up to the full on planning packages, my services are there to fit round you, I try to be as flexible as possible.
• This job is not as glamorous as people think, I don’t spend all day at cake tastings (although this is my favourite bit) there is a lot of hard work involved, incredibly unsociable hours, late nights and a lot of very demanding brides….saying that I totally love it!
• The wedding is not all about me, I’m there in the background like a little hamster on a wheel, making sure that everything runs to plan, the greatest compliment anyone can pay me at a wedding is not even realising I was there!
• Not it’s not just an American thing, lots of people these days hire a wedding planner.
• And No you don’t have to have a massive Budget to have a planner, we work to different budgets and offer a whole host of packages and services
• If you are a wedding venue, my intention is not to undermine what you do, I am here to work with you after all aren’t we all just trying to make our couples have the best day possible?
• Yes I really do LOVE weddings that much!
Basically I am employed by you (the bride or groom) to make your life as easy as possible!
Some planners focus on the budgeting and organisation aspects, others focus on the design and styling, some offer vintage specialities, some offer destination planning specialities, while others focus on high society weddings…………in that aspect we are all different!! Some just want to focus on offering on the day assistance, while others only take on full wedding co-ordination………….again we are all different and we all have our different areas of speciality!
My area of speciality is unconventional weddings and weddings in Ibiza.
I set Boho Weddings & Events up to work with brides who wanted to break away from the norm and have an un conventional wedding, ‘alternative’ maybe but more often than not I tend to work with couples who just want to do things a bit differently.
I find that a lot of my couples are having DIY weddings but still need to someone to pull all the different elements together, others having marquee or Tippi style weddings where there are a lot of outside factors to consider, others having a totally budget wedding and need to find ways to cut down on spending, while others are living in one part of the country and getting married somewhere else and just need me to bridge that gap and do a of the leg work for them.
Personally I like to think of myself as an all-rounder. I love to be organised, I am completely anal about my lists and to do sheets. I get a trill out of keeping couples on track with what they have to do, breaking all their jobs into months, working out budget sheets with them and basically managing their work load for them. However at the same time I am very creative and visual person, I love discussing colours and themes, working with couples to make the wedding not only run smoothly but look amazing! Offering inspiration and ideas, coming up with things they may never have thought of before…..often going off into my own little wedding daydream land!!
I can get involved as much or as little as you want. I have some brides who have booked me for on the day co-ordination who I have not even met yet, they are quite happy for me to meet up 4 weeks before the wedding and do the rest themselves. I have others who contact me every now and again giving me up dates with how things are going, asking my advice on things as and when they come up. While others ring and email me every day, some 4-5 times a day.
Every wedding is different, as are every couple getting married, which is why every service I offer has to be tailor made to fit with them.
With any of the wedding planning packages I offer I always say I work with a couple, people don’t want to be dictated to, they don’t want my tastes and views enforced on them, yes I will guide you in the right direction, but at the end of the day it’s your wedding, not mine!
So personally I try and stay as flexible as possible, as a planner I am here to help you plan the wedding you want.
So I hope that has enlightened you? I’m hoping one day I won’t get that confused face at wedding exhibitions, or that…no I’ve planned it all already standard answer from people (really planned it all? What you doing at a wedding fair then??) I totally LOVE my job, and those brides and grooms that have booked me I can say hand on heart have not regretted it, they seem to be enjoying the whole wedding planning process, instead of dreading it like many seem to!me at work…yes that is orange juice in my hand (photo credit www.s6photography.co.uk)
I would love your thoughts or comments on this……….other planners, brides, grooms, suppliers………tell me what you think!!!