I see a lot of weddings in my job, as you can imagine, but ever...
Today we hear from Rachel in her penultimate diary entry. With less then 7 weeks to go before her Big day Rachel is super busy but not at all stressed. Today Rachel asks if her state of calm is normal, or will she start to feel the wedding planning burn in the next week or so. She also shares with us her wedding music choice, as well as her wedding readings. Rachel will be back for her very last Diary of a Boho Bride entry 2 weeks before her big day!
With a mere seven weeks until our wedding rolls round, I thought I’d write a little about the main event of the day – the ceremony!
There was never any question that Phil and I were going to have anything other than a civil ceremony, so it was with delight that we realised that the local registry office is the very beautiful Council House in the centre of Nottingham. We hired the ballroom within days of getting engaged – the room is designed based on the Palace at Versailles and has loads of huge windows which let the natural light pour in – plus it’s got quite the aisle for my ten bridesmaids to strut their stuff down. It’s fabulous.
So, we had the room sorted pretty quickly. But piecing together the actual ceremony took rather a lot more thought.
I knew what I wanted to walk down the aisle to almost immediately – considering we’re getting married the day after our seventh anniversary as a couple, ‘Who Knows Where The Time Goes?’ by Sandy Denny, one of my favourite songs by one of my favourite singers, was an easy choice. I’ll be walking down the aisle to the last verse of the song:
The rest of the music was a bit of a headache though. I’m a huge music lover, whereas Phil really isn’t, so it was a challenge to find pieces which meant something to both of us to include which weren’t completely ridiculous (we’ve saved that for the first dance!). We’ve managed it with one very geeky choice and one very happy and jolly choice for us to leave to.
Our relationship is romantic in as much as we do lovely things together, do thoughtful things for each other and spend a lot of time investing in our relationship… but it’s never been a poetry spouting, flower giving, staring into one another’s eyes sort of an affair. What we actually do is spend an awful lot of time laughing our heads off and being incredibly happy, and it wasn’t easy to find readings which expressed that side of love in a way that we were comfortable with.
We chose ‘Us Two’ by A A Milne and ‘The Lovely Other Dinosaur’ by Edward Monkton in the end, and they’re exactly what we were looking for.
I don’t know if this happens to other brides, but I’ve kind of hit a very chilled out, accepting space. There are things to do (quite a lot of them), but as long as we pay for everything now, there is going to be a wedding. Excitingly, my hen do is on the 30th March too – I know nothing about it and can’t wait to see what my lovely girlies have up their collective sleeve.
There’s lots of little details left to finalise, lots of double checking on things to do, lots of handwritten orders of service to finish (!), but I’ve got a very detailed list and I’ve got a wonderful group of supportive friends and family who are willing to help out with anything and everything.
I’d love to hear from other brides about whether they hit a period of calm in the run up to their wedding? Or is this the calm before the storm? Am I going to snap and go a bit mad in a couple of weeks? I’ll let you know when I write just before the big day!