Ask Boho – Stationery Wording


Ask Boho – Stationery Wording

I often get emails from readers asking me for advice with their wedding planning, anything from finding the right dress,  venue , decoration or photography. The other week I received an email from a lady I will call J asking about her wedding stationery. J was stuck with her invitation wording.


Hi Kelly,
I follow your blog and love your updates, so firstly thanks for those.
Secondly we’re trying to write the wording for our invites. I’m really struggling between sounding too childish or way too formal. We’re having a marquee in a farm and very DIY relaxed day.
I was hoping you would be able to help.
J xx


I decided that I would ask a few stationers I know and see if they could help. So todays post is all about wedding invitation wording and what is appropriate for each sort of wedding.


(invitation by www.lucyledger.com)


(invitations by www.littlestringersinvites.com)


(invitations by www.charlottejayne.com)

Collection 26 say

Deciding the wording for your stationery can be a very stressful time. From choosing whether to include both parents’ names, through to how do you address the envelopes there are many styles in which you can use. We have listed some essential tips to help you when deciding on your invitations. 

The Essentials
When it comes to wording your invitations it can be easy to forget the important items. More often than not, a crucial detail will slip your mind, and you will end up with guests calling you every day. In order to prevent this, we have put together 8 top essential items you should include:

  • First name and surname of the bridegroom and his title
  • First name of the bride
  • Date, month and year of your wedding ceremony
  • Where the ceremony is taking place
  • The location of the wedding reception (if separate from your ceremony)
  • Dress Code
  • Carriages
  •  Address to which guests should reply, and a reply date. 

The Structure and Tone
We have many brides come to us asking to help her with how to word their invitations in the correct way. Being completely honest – there isn’t one! This is an entirely personal choice and you can be as creative or as traditional as you like.  We have put together some of our favourite ways to word your invitations – traditional or contemporary, which one are you?

  • ‘Sarah and John Request the pleasure of your company at their marriage on…’ –or- ‘Sarah and John are getting married. Come and join their celebrations on…’
  • ‘Dress Code: Smart Casual’ -or- ‘Dress Code: Skirts and Shirts’
  • ‘Carriages at 12 midnight’ –or- ‘Party shoes and lights out at 12 midnight’
  • ‘Name (s)  _ Would be delighted to attend _ Sadly are unable to attend’  –or-  ‘ Who’s In? _ Will be there with bells on! _ Will attend, no bells. _ Will not attend, has bell phobia.’ 

The Particulars
Information cards are becoming more and more popular (and essential) when sending invitations. They allow you to include thorough information, without cramping the overall look of your beautifully styled invitation. To make the most of your invitation card include all the following details: the full address, if children are invited, the gift list, local taxi’s, local accommodation and depending on your final style – a map.

Knowing what to write for each section can be a daunting task, to help you we have listed some of the easiest ways to tackle the most complicated areas.

 The Gift List
After many years of experience, one of the trickiest areas for couples is the gift list. Whether you have a list of things from John Lewis to donating money to charity, it is always hard knowing how to word it in a polite way. We have put together three of our favourite descriptions for you to use on your information cards.

  • Please do not feel obliged to buy us a gift; your presence on our wedding day is the most important gift that you could give us. However, for those of you who would like to buy us a gift, we have a wedding list at (name of list and details of how to buy).
  • As we have been living together for some time, we are in the enviable position of not needing much for our home! If you would like to give us a gift, any contributions towards our honeymoon or appliances for our new home) would be gratefully received.
  • (list a charity) is a charity close to our hearts, please contact them directly to make a donation on our behalf.

Inviting children
Guests will always ask whether their little ones can come along to the wedding, therefore be sure to include whether or not they are also invited. We have put together some of our most commonly used wording layouts for you to adapt and use.

  • Children and babies are more than welcome at our wedding. Please let us know in advance if you will be bringing your children
  • We regret that we are unable to accommodate children at our wedding. We are sorry for any inconvenience this may cause you.
  • Unfortunately, due to venue restrictions we are unable to invite children. Please book a babysitter and have more fun yourselves! 

When you do send out your invitations, be sure to give our guests an RSVP by date. We always advise setting the RSVP date around a month after the invite will be received. Any longer than this, and people are likely to pop in on the mantel piece to think about later, and then forget to reply on time! There will always be a few late replies, so allow yourself enough time before the wedding to collate all of the responses. Always remember to include a dietary requirement section, this will allow for any of those (sometimes awkward) guests to list any allergies they have. 

(To find out more on Collection 26 and their design team please visit www.collection26.com)


From the Parents Traditional Traditional from the brides parents

(invitation by www.sarahwants.com)

from parents

(inviation by www.wearetickledpink.co.uk)



From the couple formal From the couple but not so informal

(invitation by www.sarahwants.com)

formal from couple

(invitation by www.wearetickledpink.co.uk)

couple formal

(invitation by www.russetandgray.co.uk)



from the couple informal Informal from the couple themselves

(invitation by www.sarahwants.com)

informal from couple

(invitation by www.wearetickledpink.co.uk)

couple informal

(invitation by www.bonnyandclyde.co.uk)

couple informal

(invitation by www.russetandgray.co.uk)



themed weddings

Many themed wedding ideas can actually be really helpful in inspiring new ways to present your message to your guests. Using friendly, fun associated words that reflect your wedding theme can create an interesting and quirky tone of voice. You can be as subtle or as obvious as you want, either giving gentle nods to your theme or going all out and running with it.


(invitation by www.stacksvilledesign.com)


(invitation by www.bonnyandclyde.co.uk)

for boho 3

(invitation by www.avintagewedding.co.uk)


So there you go, I hope you all found  that helpful? I’d love to know what you are writing in your invitations, are you going formal or less traditional? Have you gone for a theme or something more simple?

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    This is a great post and a lovely excuse to look at lots of pretty stationery! I would add a 9th point to the list of essential things to have on the invitation though – the time of the ceremony and reception, as guests will need to know when to turn up!

    Nicola Russill-Roy

    This was an area i really struggled with when i was planning my own wedding as at the time there was a real lack of advice on this topic out there. Great post with really useful advice


    Great post, thanks so much! We are in the middle of designing our own invites at the moment and trying to work out the wording of everything so this is all really useful. Having a 3 day wedding makes it a bit more confusing with the wording of what is happening when. Any tips would be appreciated! Sounds silly but in the designing of the actual invitation it’s also hard to work out whether the name of the venue should be big and noticeable or if it doesn’t make a difference (!) and whether we should put the RSVP date on the actual invite… Ah so many decisions! We are going for sort of semi-informal I guess with separate information cards. Trying to decide at the moment how to package it all, whether to go for a pocket fold invite or tie it all together with string and a luggage tag. Will tell you all about it in the next blog post or two :)


    I am planning a tie dye wedding June 2019. Was needing help with verbiage for wedding invitations. Would like to include asking everyone to wear tie dye. Any advice?


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