Lucy and Jamie’s Rustic Barn Wedding in Surrey by Murray Clarke Photography

Happy Friday everyone! I hope the sun is shining where you are, what a pleasant change it makes here in the UK, where it seems to have been raining permanently for the past 6 months. We are making the most of the sunshine this weekend and are off for our first BBQ of the season at our friends house, I can’t wait!! What about you? Are you lucky enough to be getting married this weekend? or maybe you are going to a wedding? I’d love to hear what you are up to. We are heading into the weekend with this glorious autumn wedding, a rustic barn wedding that took place in Surrey. Lucy and Jamie chose Gildings Barns which gave them enough flexibility to choose their own caters and bring in their own wine, while giving them the beautiful backdrop of this beautiful rustic barn. A wonderful day captured by Murray Clarke Photography.

So much fun!

Lucy and Jamie were married on 24th September, 2022 at Gildings Barns, Newdigate, Surrey. ‘We looked at a lot of venues online and both agreed we wanted somewhere rustic and laid back, but not completely blank canvas. We were also adamant we wanted a more casual catering option such as a barbecue or hog roast, rather than sit down, three course meal. Gildings ticked all of those boxes, so a visit on their open day around November 2020 meant we didn’t hesitate to book for September 2022. We had 80 guests. Although we booked the venue in 2020, once the key suppliers were chosen: photographer, hair and makeup, florist and music, we relaxed a fair bit and most of the smaller details were finalised in probably the 6-9 months before the wedding.’

How they met 
An online dating app brought us together after uni – but a suspiciously high number of mutual friends made us realise we had definitely been at some of the same parties as each other during our school days. Although if we had met then, we might not be together now! We had been together almost 7 years by the time we got married.

The proposal
Our first “post-Covid” holiday was with our dog to the Brecon Beacons in Wales. On a hike up ‘Sugar Loaf Mountain’ Lucy was stopping for a rest and a malted milk, but Jamie had other ideas. Asking what was on dog Ted’s collar, it took Lucy a little while to clock what was happening but was very pleased when she did.

How did you allocate your budget?
We kept track of the budget using an Excel Spreadsheet and got the non-negotiables in first. We soon realised that some of the entertainment and decorative elements to a wedding can really add up, much of which your guests will still have a great time without – at the end of the day they are there to celebrate you.

Where did you splurge and where did you save?
We didn’t hold back on the food – we agreed this was a big part of the day and not somewhere we wanted to compromise, and it seemed to go down really well. Browns Kitchen were worth every penny as they ran the day right on time and it was seamless. Gildings doesn’t charge any corkage and allows you to provide your own alcohol – we may have overbought slightly, meaning we were enjoying wedding wine and prosecco for a fair few months afterwards.

How did you choose your photographer?
Murray was one of the recommended suppliers at Gildings – we loved the look of his portfolio and documentary style, capturing the emotions of the day. We followed up with a video call and were only reassured he was the right choice for us. On the day he was brilliant with the guests, laid-back and most of the time you didn’t even realise he was there capturing everything! We were so pleased with our choice and love looking back at the photos.

The dress 
The dress was called ‘Forest’ by Modeca, from lovely Hannah at Bride by Aster in Dorking. The shoes were Rainbow Club and comfy enough to wear all day long.

The suit and bridesmaids
The suits were from Moss and the bridesmaid dresses Wed2B as both bridesmaids could choose their preferred style of dress in the same colour.

Theme or colour scheme
As we were an autumn wedding, we chose a combination of sunflowers (Jamie’s choice), complemented by burgundy for the bridesmaids and accents in the décor.

We had “wild and rustic” – bold sunflowers, complemented by light pinks, whites and greenery including roses, eucalyptus, stocks and gyp. They smelt beautiful.

We chose fairly minimal decoration as we wanted the beautiful barn to stand out as it is. The main barn at Gildings has permanent fairly light and drapes, which we complemented with burgundy bunting, milk churn vases and gin bottles.

We chose sharing board barbecue platters as a fun and interactive way to serve the food, plus get everyone talking at the table. The catering was by Browns Kitchen who were fab – the beef was served on the bone with carving knives, so each table had to task someone to carve which was another fun touch. Plus as a (previously) very fussy child, Lucy felt it was only apt for her childhood favourite of sausages to feature. Desserts were a choice of Chocolate Nemesis or a berry Eton Mess, with everyone able to choose on the day.

Wedding cake
Colin and Connie the Caterpillar cakes were non-negotiable and Jamie’s very first wedding decision he made. Jamie’s mum kindly took the responsibility of sourcing a top hat, bow tie and veil for the cakes. They were definitely a talking point and went down well.

We had the string quartet Fendt Ensemble playing strings covers of well-known pop songs during the drinks and canape reception. Guests enjoyed the music and guessing which song being played.

Who supplied the stationery?
All of the stationary and accessories were found on Etsy. The majority, including invitations were from Poppy Forrest Kraft.

Where did you go on your honeymoon?
After the wedding, we had a couple of days in the New Forest with our dog, Ted, before flying on our honeymoon the week after. We spent 2 weeks in Santorini, Athens and Sicily, enjoying a mixture of culture and relaxation with plenty of good food and wine.

Personal touches
The day before the wedding was spent decorating the barn – hanging the bunting, dressing Colin and Connie, setting out the little extras including the guest book and polaroid camera. We also added a pin board with photos of us over the years and tried to include as many photos with the guests coming to the wedding as possible.

Special moments
We decided to book the burgundy camper van from Deluxe Wedding Cars to take Lucy, her Dad and the bridesmaids from the hotel in Dorking to the venue. From the sunflowers on the bonnet, the prosecco in milk bottles when we got in and the personal speaker system, the journey was so much fun and definitely eased any pre-ceremony nerves. The driver (Noel) stayed during the reception drinks and guests enjoyed taking pictures with the van.

Advice for other couples
Relax and enjoy the process! As long as your guests are fed and watered, they will have a great time. Seeing the whole room filled with people that love and care about you is so special.

Biggest surprise 
I know they always say your wedding day goes quickly, but wow it flew by! The other surprise was waking up without much of a hangover the next day… it must have been the adrenaline!



Supplier Shout Outs


Murray Clarke Photography

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