While I am away on holiday I have asked a couple of lovely people to...
Today I’m throwing the Blog open to you again as we discuss, ‘getting the man involved’
The wedding industry is still focused very heavily on the bride, with little emphasis on the groom and his views on the wedding, the more traditional wedding fairs have been known to alienate the groom, while magazines are still mainly focused at the bride.
However as a planner and a blogger I am seeing a definite shift in the groom’s role. More and more men want to get involved with the wedding plans and have a say on how their day will pan out. Over the last couple of years when I have been planning weddings it has become much more common to meet up with both bride and the groom, whereas when I started it was mainly the bride, I often didn’t meet the groom till the actual day of the wedding.
As a blogger I am seeing more and more men fill out the bridal repost for the real weddings I feature which is refreshing and also quite reassuring that the groom had taken an interest in the big day.
Personally when I got married I pretty much planned the whole thing, Nik had little or no interest, until the last month when the financial side took over, then he became interested!/involved. But it would have been nice to have his impute on more than the menu and the location!
It used to be that the groom sorted out the suit, rings and cars, while the bride saw to everything else, often spending more time with the mother and mother in law than her actual husband! But is this still the case?
I often find that the weddings that have had the man involved are the ones with more personality, it is where the couple have thought about the choices together and created a wedding that is truly unique to them.
However I know that there are still lost of brides out there making all the decisions on their own, with no impute from their partner at all!
So today I want to get some feedback from you and really find out what is going on out there
1) Are you planning your wedding on your own with little or no impute from your fiancé? Or are you doing it as a couple, with both of you making equal decisions?
2) Do you have any advice for brides struggling to get the groom involved? Any tips on getting him interested, jobs that the groom may want to do and happy to take responsibility of?