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Since I got married in June 2009 my wedding dress has been hanging up on the back of the spare room door unwashed and still in its plastic cover. I never really knew what to do with it once I was married, I never really thought about selling it, it holds too much sentimental value, so there it stayed on the back of the door. Occasionally I would unzip it, look at it, sigh a little and then zip it back up again and leave it hanging there. As long as it was hanging up on the back of the door, the question of what do I do with it now I’m married didn’t need to be answered, I could still see it whenever I wanted.
BUT this weekend I moved my little box room office into the spare room to give me more space to work, to think and more room to put all my wedding files, charts, pin boards and collections of many other wedding related items. I totally love my new office and has caused me much excitement over the last few days (I k now sad but true!) BUT it means my wedding dress can no longer hang on the back of the door.
It’s now been sent off to the cleaners, but what am I going to do with it when it comes back? This leads me to the question in today wedding Wednesday discussion. ‘What do you do with your wedding dress once you are married?’
Before I was married my initial thoughts were to get it washed and then store it away in a box in the attic, that’s what most people do right? But now I’m not so sure. When it was on the back of the door I knew it was close, the memory of the wedding was always there with me, but in a box in the attic, my fear is I will never go back and look at it and it will just collect dust up there??
So I am now looking into the idea of what else I can do with it. I guess the other main idea is to sell it, but I’m not sure I want to. It all seems a bit final, plus would anyone actually want it? And would it be worth selling for what I could get for it, a few hundred pounds, or a lifetime of memories of the best day of my life?
So I wanted to ask you all what your ideas are.
1) If you are married what have you done with your dress?
2) If you’re not married what are you intending to do with your dress once you are married?
Trash/Rock/Cherish/Love the dress Photo Shoot
Great idea and I think every woman should do this if possible. I did one of these a year after my wedding, in fact it was pretty much on my one year wedding anniversary. (SEE FULL SHOOT HERE) It was an amazing experience and I have some beautiful pictures of the dress now. So if you do get a chance please do one. BUT I can’t keep doing them. To be honest I can no longer do my dress up. Before my wedding I spent 9 months dieting and exercising like a demon, I lost a stone and a half, and looked in my opinion great. Straight after the wedding I put all that weight back on again (what can I say I LOVE food) Before my trash the dress shoot I had to loose half a stone just to get back in the dress, and even then it was a very snug fit! So the idea of doing more shoots in it leave me cold. My dieting days are over……well for now they are anyway, so no more shoots!
There are many wedding sites that specialise in selling pre owned wedding dress (if you won one please feel free to add your website to the comment box) These sites will take your dress and sell it on to someone who wants to wear it, your dress gets worn once again and loved by another bride. Quite a romantic way of looking at it I guess. You could sell it independently, you could put it on EBay, you can sell it to a shop that sells per owned wedding dresses, you could even take it to Oxfam who have a few specialist wedding dress shops around the country.
Storing it away.
Getting the dress cleaned is expensive enough, £60-£70-£80 maybe more, then the Box to store it is, with its special acid free paper….another £70 ish!! £70 for a box!! To never take it out and look at it again!! Really??? Maybe an investment I need to make, but I’d rather spend £70 on a new pair of shoes, or a dress I can actually wear
Saving it for your first Christening
Tradition states that you are meant to save your wedding dress to be made into a christening robe for your children…….well I’m not intending to get my children christened (sorry God) I don’t go to church, and neither me or Nik have been christened ourselves, so a little impossible. I will however be having a baby naming ceremony, but my son/daughter will not be wearing my old wedding dress during it.
Saving it for you husbands funeral
Another tradition I have heard of is that you save your wedding dress, for your husband’s funeral, die it black and wear it on the day?? Well considering the dress isn’t made from a natural fibre my GCSE textiles tells me that it won’t die black, more of a murky grey colour, that mixed with the diamante bling on it, plus the fact I can’t get into it now let alone in a few years’ time = a big fat no on this one
Put it on a frame and hang it on your wall
Now I kind of like this one! Making your wedding dress into art, this way it stays preserved but you get to see it. I’m not sure how much a frame that big would cost, but it sounds like a pretty cool idea, and maybe one I would consider
Put it on a mannequin.
Another nice idea, but maybe not so good in terms of keeping it clean. I can imagine that wedding dresses’ aren’t that easy to dust! And leaving in a corner of my office on a mannequin sounds like a dust rap waiting to happen
These are the ideas I have had given to me so far. At the moment I am totally undecided. I guess I will have to wait and see how clean it is when it comes back from the cleaners. I may not have totally trashed it when I did my trash the dress shoot, but it certainly had a lot of cow poo, grass stains and mud on the bottom of it! if it’s perfectly clean then I may consider selling it…BUT I will have to decide what to do with the money, I think buying something specific like a really nice piece of jewellery, something timeless so I always knew that is where my wedding dress went……or I may decide just to store it away?. Or that picture frame idea sounds kind of cool.
Do let me know what your thoughts and ideas are.
I would love to hear what you have done, or what you intend to do with yours; I could really do with some other ideas!
Please feel free to leave a comment, and if you are a business that does anything with per owned wedding dress feel free to leave your details as well.
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My Full Wedding Photos can be seen HERE
My Full Trash The Dress Shoot can be seen HERE