Advice From the Married Side – Real Brides Advice From Their Wedding Day

This afternoon we are back with another healthy dose of wedding planning advice in our monthly ‘Advice from the Married Side’ feature. I have so many amazing real weddings on the blog and with each wedding I ask the couple to share with us some of their wedding planning knowledge. Every month I collect all their advice together and put together this post. Lots of wonderful words of wedding wisdom for you to take on board and put into your own wedding planning journey. I hope there will be something amongst these experiences that help you……….Happy Planning!

Sarah D"Ambra Photography

(original wedding HERE – photo by Sarah D’Ambra Photography)

General Advice

  • I would also recommend to budget for a videographer if you can. The day is such a whirlwind that you forget so many details and things that were said in speeches – we feel lucky to be able to watch our ceremony and the speeches whenever we want and that one day we will be able to show our children.
  • if we wanted to save money, we wouldn’t have bothered with a marquee heater in July.
  • Don’t stress about the little things
  • The only thing we would change would have been to try and worry a bit less so I suppose that would be the advice we would pass on.
  • Choose a photographer that makes you feel comfortable, it made such as difference to our day – they felt more like guests!
  • Don’t forget to have fun, be grateful and do not burden yourself with expectations. Details are just details.

(original wedding HERE – photo by Debs Ivelja)


  • Don’t over complicate the day. Make a note of what’s important to you and focus on getting that right, everything else just keep simple. Don’t create more unnecessary stress for yourself.
  • Hire help. There’s no point in being so stressed and worked up during the planning and wedding day—enjoy yourself! Be involved, but also put trust in others to help you.
  • I remember someone telling me to celebrate every little thing you accomplish, whether it be finding the photographer or finalizing the table plan. You will never get to plan the same party again so enjoy it.
  • In the planning, just make sure you do the big things nice and early. It is incredible how quickly venues are filled and bands are booked up and how long dresses take to be made!
  • What kept us on the right track while planning and helped us to make decisions quite easily is the question Why do we do it and what does it mean to us?
Gemma + Terry's awesome wedding at Broughton Hall near Skipton in North Yorkshire.

(original wedding HERE – photo by Paul Joseph Photography)

Making the day Personal to you

  • Spend less time on pinterest and more time thinking about special ways to capture your relationship in the details and special moments.
  • Follow your wedding dreams without letting others influence you otherwise. It’s your day!
  • Stick to your guns! We dropped a lot of traditions that we felt weren’t relevant to us, which can sometimes be hard for people who hold more traditional values to understand, but ultimately the day is about the two of you and your love for each other, everything else is secondary.
  • We think a wedding should be just what makes the bride and groom happy.
  • Do what makes you happy. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone…its just not going to happen, but in the end everyone there loves you and they are going to love what you came up with.
  • Remember the things that are important to you and stick by that. Don’t feel pressured to do the traditional thing.
Alternative Outdoor Humanist Tipi Wedding in Kent by Devlin Photos

(original wedding HERE – photo by Devlin Photos)

Getting Organised

  • I also spent a lot of time putting a playlist together for some parts of the day so now when I hear a track I instantly get taken back to that moment of the day and who I was with when I heard it
  • Try to do as much as you possibly can in the lead up to the big day but give yourself the week before time to relax together and pamper yourselves.
  • Share the load. Every decision we made we made together. We allowed each other to have things that the other might not have chosen and it all came together well in the end.
  • Write lists, we had so many lists in our kitchen but couldn’t have done it without them.
  • Make spreadsheets – there’s alot to think about and having everything in one place made it all so much easier
  • Don’t take on too many projects and don’t be scared to delegate if you do!

(original wedding HERE – photo by Amrose Photography)

On The Day

  • Once the day begins, let go of the plans and enjoy every moment. It will never go perfect but every couple chooses how they react to the imperfections.
  • On the wedding day, take an hour to yourself to unwind and relax your eyes, drink a lot of water, and only surround yourself with happy, helpful people. No need to run around and get all sweaty before your moment to shine. Sip slowly and soak it all up.
  • It goes in a flash so stand back and take it all in.
  • Don’t stress! I am such a worrier, but as soon as I woke up in the morning I let all my worries go. I knew that by the end of the day we would be married and that was the most important thing so everything else was just a bonus!
  • On the day, just go with the flow and enjoy it. It will pass by so quickly so make sure you spend some time together soaking it all in.
  • Enjoy the day, once everyone is there and having a good time who cares if a minor detail doesn’t happen, nobody else will know it was supposed to!
  • Don’t be too worried or scared about the big day, everyone is there to make sure you have the best day of your lives
  • It’s so true what they say, the day goes by so quickly. Just enjoy every minute, don’t worry if you don’t get to go around and speak to every single person (they’ll understand!) and give yourself time to reapply your lippy throughout the day.

(original wedding HERE – photo by Matt Parry Photography)


I hope you found these pieces of advice helpful. If you are already married is there anything you would like to add ? Was there anything in these words of wisdom that has resonated with you?

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