I have been dreaming of writing this post for months, no, actually years now, but today I am delighted to be able to share some really good news.
I’m pretty terrible at keeping secrets, so I have to admit I may have been far from cryptic over the last few weeks, but after an incredibly exciting and nerve wrecking 12 week scan on Wednesday, I am absolutely over the moon to let you all know that Nik and I are expecting our first baby!
As some of you may know if you follow my personal posts, the whole baby journey hasn’t been an easy one for us; we started trying for a baby straight after our wedding 4 and half years ago, but after a long and very emotional journey our amazing miracle baby is now growing in my ever expanding tummy!
I cannot tell you how excited Nik and I are, the last few weeks have been completely surreal, and so full of happiness I have wanted to shout it from the roof tops! I was never ready for the happiness getting pregnant would bring me. It has been such a long journey getting to this point, we are both revelling in our happy news and totally besotted with the idea of making a home for our new arrival. Hours spent discussing names, looking at prams and nursery furniture, discussing what sort of parents we want to be, have been some of the happiest hours spent.
However it hasn’t been easy getting to this point, and at times it has really put our relationship to the test. Not being able to get pregnant is hard, and for anyone reading this that is currently going through the same thing I salute you! It seemed every time Nik and I got some bad news regarding our baby plans someone else would pop up announcing their pregnancy, at times it was pretty tough but we carried on and tried to make the best of things.
After being let down by our GP, and then the NHS with failed IVF promises we decide to seek private advice. It was here that we had more tests done and eventually last summer, I was told that I would never be able to have my own children. I have to say that after a series of blows, my world pretty much fell apart! It was a difficult time for us, as you can imagine, but with most things in life there are always other options!
Luckily science stepped in, and with the help of a donor egg we were able to start looking at our baby plans in a more realistic light.
I have always had faith in the human spirit, always believed in the good in people. However the kindness of a complete stranger really has made me appreciate how totally astonishing and truly selfless some people can be, and how the actions of one person can have such an amazing and life changing effect on another.
Someone out there, for no other reason than doing a good thing for another person, a complete stranger has made it possible for me to have a baby and for that I will be eternally grateful! I will never meet this person and she will never meet me, but I think about her every day and what a wonderful thing she has done.
So for other couples out there going through the same thing, there is hope and there are options, they may not be something you first considered, but there are ways around the problems that are thrown at us! You just have to be ready to adapt and choose a different road to travel down.
(Me on the day of our last treatment) (more…)